An ode to Mom & Dad  

 

When I opened my eyes in your lap

Your eyes twinkled and you had a shine on your face

Your happiness knew no bounds

And you brought us up with so much grace

 

The days you used to prep us for school

From helping us with the books or making our lunch box

You never said you were tired of this mundane routine

Instead you patiently answered our all inquisitive talks

 

From giving us all the life lessons

To teaching us the importance of time

You made sure you did the role modelling

And watched our spirits climb

 

We, your daughters, are proud of you

To see you complete such a marvellous journey together

An epitome of love and achievement,

We wish you two, live happily forever!

— Sanchita

She

Weaving her nest,

She had million dreams.

Wishing on falling stars,

But there was sorrow streams.

She wished to have her dreams come true

And her eyes fell on her daughter, and she asked her “Can you?”

Her little one replied saying yes!

Overjoyed and blessed, she started preparing her for success.

The little one was born wild and didn’t settle in a cage,

History was being written and praises followed her on every page.

Beaming with success, her loved ones stood tall,

She was being celebrated and adored by all.

She was in action with her full devotion,

The goals which were clear were now overcast with mixed emotions.

History repeated itself and she was being tied for flying too high,

She was confined and beaten till she could not fly.

Her world was crashing with no signs of hope,

But she had this little trick which helped her cope.

She found a friend in the estranged land,

Who untied her and cleared the wounds beneath her hand.

With all her energy, she rose again to fly

And promised the world, that nothing is going to break her down till she dies.

– Sanchita Singh

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One of my amateur painting

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Pristine Lachung!

Located in northeast of Sikkim, Lachung is a small hill station. It is at an elevation of about 9,600 feet and is around 125km away from Gangtok.

Recently a friend of mine was on a work visit to Lachung which brought back all the beautiful memories of my wonderful stay in this mountain village. Lachung was the last leg of our honeymoon trip after Darjeeling and Gangtok. It took around 3 hours’ drive from Gangtok city to Lachung. And let me tell you the drive wasn’t very easy one as the road construction isn’t great and plus drive to the hills is always tricky. Apart from the roads, I was delighted to see remnants of snow on the sides of the road. It was everywhere. There was no snow fall, though till then. The moment we had reached our hotel it started snowing a bit and it was chilly cold. After checking in, we asked the bell boy whether the hotel has been running full, and he replied saying we were the only tourist in his hotel. Hearing this we were a little scared about our safety. The temperature was going down by the night, the heater in the room helped us to survive – 10 degrees Celsius.

As I woke up early in the morning with a wish to see the sunrise, what do I get to see?? Snowwwww!! The whole area was covered with snow and the view was mesmerizing. This was the first time I had seen snow and I just can’t express in words of how surreal the entire view was.

We decided to step out and go to the zero point in Lauchung. Zero Point or Yumesamdong is the place where three rivers meet with surrounding snow-clad mountains, offering marvelous scenic views. On our way to zero point we also spotted several yaks. When we reached the zero point, the view is breath taking. Trust me you won’t find any place more pristine and beautiful than this one.

Quick guide of my north east travel:

  • This was a week’s trip. From Delhi we took a flight for Bagdogra. From here, we left for Darjeeling which is around 3 – 4 hours’ drive.
  • We stayed in Summit Grace Resort and spa –our stay was beautiful here (both accommodation and food is worth it). This hotel has clear views of Kanchenjunga Mountains and its heavenly!
  • On day 2 in Darjeeling, we went to the Tiger Hill to see the sunrise from the snowcapped mountains. You have to visit here if you are in Darjeeling!
  • We then saw Ghoom monastery, Japanese Peace pagoda, Tibetan Buddhist monastery and Batasia loop.
  • Day 3 – drove fromDarjeeling to Gangtok 98 kms/ 4 Hrs approx. We stayed in Summit Ttakshang Residency
  • Afternoon was spent in sightseeing at Gangtok visiting Banjhakri Waterfalls, Do Drul Chorten (Stupa), Flower Show.
  • On day 4 we saw – Hanuman Tok, Rumtek Monastery (must visit), Phodong monastery, Bakhtang falls and Enchey monastery.
  • Do go for some shopping experience on MG road in Gangtok, it is quite clean and well maintained. You have to try the momos there, they are simply yum !
  • On day 5 – our whole day was spent in Yumthang valley (must visit) and in the evening we left for Lachung.
  • On day 6 – we left for zero point and explored Lachung.
  • On day 7 – we finally took a flight from Bagdogra to Delhi.

Our North east trip was an experience in itself. Gangtok, Darjeeling and Lachung is a great combination of places to plan your holiday. Specially for the mountain lovers, this is a dream destination.So go ahead and plan a trip to north east soon, hope this blog helps!

 

Yes, I am married and don’t ask me when am I having babies!  

Statutory warning : – This article is written to share views of the unspoken souls, it has no intention to hurt anyone. Any resemblance to reality is pure coincidence.

In an Indian society, life of a woman is so troublesome. When she is born, you are upset because you wanted a son. When she wanted to study more, you think it would be useless to spend money on her because at the end of the day she will be managing the kitchen, kids and her husband. You think about her safety all the time. When she grows up, you think about the amount of dowry you would be spending on her. And once she gets married, the whole society starts asking her “when are you going to have a baby”.  Is this the means to an end?

Very recently, I was having a conversation with a lady which went something like this:

Lady: So when are you planning to have a baby

Me: I don’t have an answer to your question and I don’t know yet. I am not prepared for this.

Lady: Imagine if your parents would have thought the same about you.

Me: it’s their mistake that they didn’t think about it.

Lady: yes, you have all the time right now and you have been enjoying life. After having kids your life is going to change.

Me (fuming with anger, controlling my words): How do you know whether everything that is happening in my life is making me happy? Yes I enjoy my life, I love to travel but let me tell you if tomorrow even though I have kids I will still travel with them. You can’t restrict me from enjoying my life.

This whole conversation made me think as to why we keep asking women this question. Are you not happy of the fact that she is doing well in her career? Or you can’t see her happy because she has no kids? Or you are planning to support her after she has kids? What is the intention of asking? What gives you the right to know? Or maybe she is expecting and she doesn’t want to share this news right now? And let me tell you this isn’t just asked by your in-laws, family but also some of our educated friends and colleagues.

If she gains a little weight, or is having some specific food, this doesn’t give you license to ask her these stupid questions. And if she fumes back at you, then better not give the excuse of joking about it.

You never know what’s happening in her life. May be the couple isn’t ready yet to bring in the responsibility of handling a kid, may be they are not financially ready to support a kid’s upbringing. May be the women is facing medical issues and is unable to conceive or she might be going through a miscarriage. Or maybe they are just thinking of adopting a kid . And it’s not only the responsibility of a women, but men are equally responsible for giving birth to a child. So why don’t people question their son/brother that when are they giving them the good news. There are a lot of things that might be going on in a couple’s life.

Having a baby is not just another decision of buying something for your house. It’s a life changing event, not everyone is blessed financially or have ready support system at their place to take care of kids.

So my dear readers, hope this message gets across to you and I hope you can be sensible enough to not ask this question again!

Closure

There have been moments in my life where I have felt I need a closure to move on. Be it a conversation or a relationship, they all need a closure. In today’s fast paced world, people find it hard to say goodbye. You would find them hiding their faces or immersed in their own world where they don’t want to face the closure.

We have stopped bidding goodbye, we no more find ways to make the closure. We don’t explain for things that might have moved or changed circumstances. We just rush into things without realizing what effect it has on the other person.

So, she left. . And she left forever. She made insane decisions, booked the tickets and left the country. She didn’t realise the impact it would have on him, on someone whom she had promised to spend her life with. This is what the world knows that she left, and left him alone!

But this isn’t the end.. She wanted a closure, a final goodbye.. She wanted to tell him of how happy she is to see him doing well. She wanted to share her happiness, of how things have changed in her life. She finally knocked his doors, to see him, to bid him goodbye. Little did she know that she would get a cold response and the door would be banged on her face?  He had left…leaving and running away gave him control on his life.

Her life wasn’t a movie and there was no happy ending to their story. Sometimes one needs to hop on the other bridge and let it go as life isn’t a fairy tale! And someone rightly said, “You have to accept that some chapters in our lives have to close without closure. There’s no point in losing yourself by trying to fix what’s meant to stay broken”.

Log kya kahenge?

This one sentence in India has killed a lot of dreams, created a lot of drama and has led to endless debates. The usage of this line has been the highest among our parents. The effect of this line is so much that at least 70% of us before taking an important decision, do think about “Log kya kahenge” (what will the people say?). And this usage of the line doesn’t begin from the adulthood but since we have been kids.

Allow me to share some very common examples which a lot of us would relate to:

  • In school if you get less marks in your boards as compared to your best friend or cousin, you would have to listen to “log Kya kahengegiphy (3)
  • In case you took up science and you haven’t been able to crack either engineering or medical exams, and you decide to take a break for one year, you listen to this line again – log Kya kahenge
  • In case you took Humanities as your subject in 12th std, the pressure is even more!giphy (5)
  • You go for a party and you come home late night, your mom would be sure to say what if the neighbours saw you this late night partying, log kya kahenge!giphy (7)
  • When you decide to go for an intercaste marriage, the whole discussion about caste, society, family would start and would only revolve around “log kya kahenge”giphy (6)
  • When you are travelling and you want to post about it, suddenly someone would say why have you been posting so much about your travel, why do you have to make so many check ins? log kya kahenge!!
  • After marriage when you decide, you want to adopt a kid or you don’t want to have kids, you might again have to listen to “log kya kahengegiphy (4)
  • Working women coming late, not making 3 meals every day, all of this boils down to “log kya kahenge

Well I am no different, when I started writing even I had the similar kind of questions – how will I be perceived by the world, will I be judged, “log kya kahenge”. And this doesn’t surprise me because all of us have been grown up worrying what people will say and think.

Do let me know what you have to say about this topic. Thank you for reading!

 

The essence of gratitude

“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” William Arthur Ward

Today I am grateful that I have a good cook at home and how she makes sure I have proper meals. I am also grateful that I have a house, husband and a job.  In my prayers to God today, I paused and there was a moment of reflection.

I am thankful to be leading a healthy life. If I look at the other side of it, I am thankful that I do not have chronic illness.

We spend most of our times wishing something we don’t have. Every time we visit a temple, do we thank God for giving us what we have or do we share our long wish list with him?

It’s time we practice gratitude more often. Gratitude means thankfulness, counting our blessings, being happy with what we have. Gratitude shifts our focus from what we don’t have to thanking what we have at the present moment.

There was a time in my childhood days where we didn’t have enough supply of water and we would also experience frequent power cuts. My mom used to teach us to save water, we even used to store the rain water for our other household chores. During the power cuts, we used to study under the lanterns, maximize the morning time to study under the natural light.

Another vivid memory that I am really fond of is when we used to have “Durga Puja”, we are asked to chose three dresses, and those were the only dresses we bought for ourselves for the entire year.So we eagerly used to wait for the Durga Puja to begin. I am sure not many of us would have had the same kind of experience but today I feel thankful to where we all are. We are much better off and we don’t have the same issues now.

Gratitude helps us realize what we have. The awareness of what we are and what we have can lessen our tendency to want more all the time. So let’s just be thankful to where we are in our lives.

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My first 5k marathon of 2017

“With self-discipline, all things are possible.” – Theodore Roosevelt

I somehow quite relate to the above quote and this has become my fitness mantra. When I look at my dad, he is now in his sixties but he gets up early every day and does jogging for atleast 5km. Not only does he jog but he maintains quite a healthy lifestyle like having timely meals, doing yoga, and sleeping on time. Since we were kids he had been instilling the same in me but I never cared to listen to him. Until one day when I fell quite sick, had a gastritis attack and the doctor asked me to do zillion of tests (I am right now 28years old). That day I decided to take charge of my health and bring changes in my lifestyle.

In my earlier post I have mentioned how I have been successful in loosing couple of kilos and few inches. I decided to take this to a new level – running a marathon. My colleague mentioned that there is an upcoming marathon (Urban Stampede) in Feb and he was looking for people who are willing to join him. The idea seemed quite exciting, though doing a 5k or a 10k wasn’t my cup of tea. But 9 of us signed up for the marathon, and I chose 5k timed run.

January passed with minimal practice, and every day I used to think that I might just make some or the other excuse to bunk this marathon. Haryana riots had started in Feb and this marathon got moved to March. The day we heard the news I felt slight relief and thought to myself that I now have some more days to practice and now I changed my mind to run this one. Few things I followed before this marathon:

  • Practiced atleast 4 days a week to run for at least 30 mins.
  • My next step was to test myself whether I could actually do 5kms as I had been running only 2 – 3 kms.
  • Build on my stamina by going to the gym regularly
  • Trying to eat right, but most of the times I failed miserably.

On the day of the marathon, only 5 of us turned up! The whole energy at the marathon was something different, people were warming up, some were busy claiming their free tshirt while few were having their pre workout meals. We even saw kids at venue who were beaming with high energy.

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My friends in office

The coordinators called out the runners for some warming up for 15 mins. After this was over, the entire mob started inching towards the start line. And it started…. There is always a gush in my system when I see so much of energy, and my body just flowed in the moment. I was running, jogging ,walking and running but at my own pace. I had my music on and was living the moment. Where I saw few people being competitive, few passing friendly smiles and few busy clicking selfies.

At the finish line, one could sense the energy of the crowd, people were hooting and praising the runners for finishing their run successfully. Completing my 5k run has been an amazing journey of self-realization and self-evaluation.

When I got my timing of the run, I noticed that in my group of 5 folks, my timing hasn’t been that great – I was actually the last one. To this, my boss, Sumit Mundra replied “You look for others with better timing for inspiration but your competition is only with yourself unless you want a podium finish”. This line of his, means a lot for me. I felt a little happier and a little more proud for having finished what I started!me-runn

A tribute to my dearest Teacher – Rekha ma’am

Someone rightly said, “I may not be in your class today, but I am still your student”. Very few people in your life will stay there forever, and for most of us it would be either family or some friends, but I am glad and lucky to have my school teacher still in my life.

During my childhood days, my dad had a transferable job and we (my sister and I) changed 3 schools, and in the 3rd school, this is where I met her. I was in my 8th std , when I moved to this school and this change took a toll on my studies. My sister went for her higher studies, my mom also started her clinic and I started feeling aloof from everyone. That year I gave my worst performance in my class and my parents were super upset with me.

Rekha ma’am was my class teacher who used to teach us history & civics. She knew about my class performance but she never raised this with me. On the final day when we get our report cards, my mom was with me. Trust me, I still feel I would have flunked in this class, but by God’s grace I passed with average marks. When my mom met my teacher, my mom was in her usual self, complaining about me that I don’t study at all. To all of this, Rekha ma’am just replied, “When with so many changes in her school life she is able to attain average marks, I am sure she will reach great heights in her next class”. This moment was special, listening to this, somewhere I felt really motivated and happy that I have someone who trusts me and my capabilities.

This conversation has been a turning point in my life where I can’t thank her enough for believing me. In the later years, our paths crossed again in high school and she became my psychology teacher. Having her as my teacher again, nothing has ever made me so happy ever. There were moments we shared where we used to talk about the generation gap, career advises, and what not. Those two years in my high school has been special for me.

There was this day when my 12th results were being declared and in those days we didn’t have internet on our mobile phones, so I went to the cyber café with my dad to check my results. I had passed with flying colours and my dad was amazed to see this. He asked me if I would like to call mom to tell her my results, and I told him that I would like to first thank my dearest teacher who has been the supporting pillar in this journey.

People today brag about their friendship stories of how they have been together for several years, well, I have a teacher who has been there with me for more than 14 years who has not only been a part of my school days, but was also there to wish me when I was getting married!

You have not only been a teacher but a confidant and my best friend. We might not talk to each other every day but you are always in my heart. What would I do without your guidance and blessings, thank you for teaching me life important lessons.  Thank you for being who you are and you have no idea what you mean to me!

The below picture dates back to 2011, where I met her in Ashram, Bangalore.

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My mentor and I